The Tools I Use to Save My Marriage

Episode Title: The Tools I Use to Save My Marriage

Podcast: Midlife Marriage Mastery with Lisa Kneller

Have you ever wondered what it really takes to keep a marriage thriving—especially after years of life together, through changes, challenges, and the rollercoaster of midlife? In this heartfelt and practical episode, I share the exact tools I have used to nurture and strengthen my own 39+year marriage. From daily emotional regulation to yearly growth practices, I open  my personal marriage playbook and reveal how I stay connected, grounded, and in love—even when things get tough.

These aren’t theories—they’re living, breathing habits that cultivate emotional awareness, mutual respect, and lasting connection.

What You’ll Learn

• Daily Tools for Emotional Regulation: Discover simple yet powerful practices like deep breathing, mindfulness, yoga, and letter writing to stay calm and connected.

• Weekly Tools for Conscious Thinking: Learn how to apply the CTFAR Model (Circumstance–Thought–Feeling–Action–Result) to manage your mind and prevent unnecessary conflict.

• Monthly Tools for Reflection: Explore the power of The Work by Byron Katie and The Three Principles for releasing judgment and returning to peace.

• Yearly Tools for Growth: See how books, podcasts, and coaching fuel ongoing marriage inspiration and keep you growing together.

• The Secret Ingredient—Staying Close: Lisa shares how intentional conversations, affection, intimacy, and gratitude keep love alive year after year.

Key Takeaways

• Marriage doesn’t thrive on autopilot—it requires conscious tending.

• Emotional regulation is a personal responsibility that creates harmony.

• Thought awareness through models like CTFAR helps transform frustration into compassion.

• Inquiry and self-reflection are the heart of growth and connection.

• Staying close—through communication, affection, and gratitude—is the ultimate “tool” for a thriving marriage.

Resources Mentioned

• The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

• The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

• Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson

• The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman

• The Life Coach School Podcast by Brooke Castillo

• 10% Happier

• Marriage Therapy Radio

• Caffeine for the Soul with Michael Neill

Connect and Grow

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Listen now and learn how to cultivate lasting love—one conscious choice at a time.
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